The introvert paradox

Being an INFJ, the below excerpt from this article deeply resonated with me. Maybe being an introvert most of the time lets us be an effective extrovert the rest of the time.

Today, I spend copious amounts of time by myself; in fact, I don’t know anyone who spends more time alone than me. At least 80% of my time is spent solo: walking, writing, exercising, reading, ruminating. In the process, I’ve learned to enjoy the sound of silence: to sit quietly and hear what’s going on not just around me, but inside myself.
Yet the greatest benefit of prolonged solitude is that when I do decide to immerse myself in social situations—be it dinner with friends, a date, or on tour—I’m pretty awesome to be around. Not only do I benefit from my alone time, but everyone around me benefits, too: we all get the best version of me. I’m able to burst into social situations with stored energy, which actually makes most people believe I’m an extrovert since I’m able to engage at a high level and employ active listening, humor, and intellectually stimulating conversation.

2 thoughts on “The introvert paradox

  1. It just occurred to me that I often hear introverts celebrating their mental processes, yet I never hear extroverts do so.. isn’t that paradoxical to the whole idea of how these mindsets work?


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